Chance Gates' Blog

Understand I’m no psychiatrist only what I learned over the years.   I was talking with a female friend of mine and she started complaining about her spouse.  They had a argument and she says she threatens to move out.  I ask “why would you say that”.

She replied “I wanted to hurt him”.

Again I asked “why”.

“He made me mad” she said (sound familiar).

“Yea, but you love him right” I replied.

She said “Yes”

The conversation went on and we came to my ways of disagreeing with the spouse.  I wished I followed during my first marriage.

1. It’s okay to disagree, however remember you still love each other.
2. Stick to the point.  No need to be hurtful or bring up past mistakes.
3. It’s okay to get mad, but no reason to stay mad for a couple of hours or longer.
4. Always be respectful, this is the person you love